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Monday, March 29, 2010

Work situation

I've decided to go ahead and give the back story on my work situation.

So, our infertility & miscarriage have been kept private. (Yes, I know, I have a blog and discuss these things on a message board. I'm talking about "in real life": people I see on a daily basis, friends & family) It has only been shared with my parents. However, I decided I would tell my boss that I was having a d&c. I didn't want it to appear that I was slacking for not coming in for a week, and I didn't want to be bothered with questions from her. So, I told her I was having surgery and I asked that it be kept confidential.

Let's fast forward a week. The day before I was supposed to go back to work I open my email to find one from my boss. An email telling me that she shared my personal information with other people in my department, even though she knew I didn't want her to. Throw in some "twisted my arm" and "couldn't be dishonest" and that about sums it up. I was furious. Furious. Fury followed by tears. Our best friends and other family members don't know about our miscarriage, but now these people knew.

I went back to work that Monday. Thursday morning I left for good. It was the best decision for me.


  1. Amber, I am so so sorry. How dare she share that information with anyone.

    Did your company have an HR department? I would absolutely file a complaint of some sort; that is so unprofessional. ((hugs))

  2. I agree with Moonpie, you should report her and her actions to HR. That is so wrong!

  3. Every time I think about this I get so mad. I can't believe she did that. (((HUGS)))